The Ability To See A Partner As A Sex Object
Unlike emotional attachments, arousal is not caused by a specific person or by a relationship. Arousal relies on being able to see a person, to some degree, as an sex object. Arousal is achieved when the mind focuses on objects or concepts that a person finds arousing. Arousal mechanisms (erotic turn-ons) involve physical attributes and the psychology of a scenario or a lover.
Men naturally see attractive women as objects that cause arousal. Women accuse men of being sexist, but this is just how male sexual psychology works. Men may suppress their comments if they accept that women are offended by them, but they cannot change their innate sexual responses. Men can love a partner and still view them as a sex object. Men are not usually aroused by a relative because of the emotional significance of the relationship.
Women’s nurturing instincts mean they empathize with others. Men are more emotionally detached, which helps when men need to kill and sexual scenarios. Their sex drive causes men to respond to erotic rather than emotional stimuli.
Men, who are natural hunters and have a healthy sex drive, cannot afford to empathize with their victims or their lovers.
In past times acting was not a respectable (or even safe) occupation for a woman because any woman who put herself on display (no nudity implied) was a target for male attention. Later, actresses were associated with prostitution.
Women’s activities have often been limited because men view them as sex objects.
Women don’t want sex the way a man does. Men have not suffered in the same form because women do not see men as sex objects. Equally, sex with a woman is not something most men try to avoid.
Men enjoy trying different positions for intercourse. The missionary position’s disadvantage is that it does not allow a man to see the genital action. Men are aroused by observing their own erect penis during masturbation, and they enjoy watching their penis enter a lover’s body. Women consider graphic images to be crude, obscene, and non-arousing.
Women tend to see people purely in a social and relationship context. A woman lacks this ability to view a lover as a sex object.
In a real-life sexual situation, a woman is aware of her lover as a social person she loves. When masturbating, a woman is aroused by scenarios unconnected with her real-life lover and her sexual relationship. A woman has to envisage surreal erotic themes to consciously generate the equivalent mental arousal a man needs for orgasm. This mechanism does not work in a social context.
Women’s sexual fantasies involve taboo themes and engaging in surreal sexual activity with complete strangers. Women use fictitious men in their dreams who can be depersonalized and made into sex objects to be used for arousal rather than human beings with their own emotional needs. Women’s fantasies provide a mechanism for women to turn men into things. The men in women’s sexual fantasies are not men they have ever met or are in a relationship with. These fantasy men represent male sex drive or an erect penis that is part of a penetrative sex scenario.
In fantasy, a woman can simultaneously imagine herself as both giver and receiver. Women’s dreams are surreal because, in the absence of any sex drive, women need to focus on the more indirect consequences for women that arise from men’s sex drive. Using fantasy allows a woman to be both the woman and the man in the scenario penetrating the woman. She can focus on male ejaculation as a means of producing her own sexual release.
Fantasy is a mechanism a woman uses to focus on a more psychological view of sex by being the male sex drive object.
A woman fantasizes about a man doing things to her because men initiate and drive penetrative sex. A woman needs to see herself as sexually attractive, and she needs to take pleasure in the knowledge that a man wants her sexually. A woman may enjoy imagining a man’s desire to penetrate her body. In her mind, she can also be the male driving the action and experiencing the pleasure.
Men enjoy sharing their fantasies because they hope a lover will participate in an activity that they fantasize about. Women’s dreams are not based on reality. They focus on impossible and unreal situations and people. A fantasy involves imagining impossible or improbable things. Women’s sexual fantasies are purely a mechanism for enjoying the orgasm. They lack all the practicalities of real-life and the crude visual eroticism that men want.
In her fantasies
In her fantasies, a responsive woman focuses on the concept of penetration rather than graphic images. She focuses on a man’s sex drive to penetrate her body. This is at a much more explicitly sexual level than a romance novel. A sexual fantasy culminates with male ejaculation as a sexual release rather than the graphic images of creamy gelatinous semen that gay men revel in. A responsive woman enjoys the idea that a man focuses on his urgent need to penetrate her body. She doesn’t want to see a real penis or touch one by hand or mouth to enjoy it as tangibly as a gay man would.
On the other hand, since there are marked differences between females and males in their response to psychological stimuli, it seems apparent that those responses must depend upon some mechanism that functions differently in the two sexes. (Alfred Kinsey 1953)